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Are you an
F-Wad? Filler word addict?
Many of our
clients are hooked on words like "Like," "You know." "Uh,"
"Umm," and "Well." Filler words can eat away at a confident
appearance like a virus. For most F-Wad's, the core problem
is fear of silence. Just the thought of a few seconds passing
by without hearing your voice is horrifying.
But many of
our clients have dropped their F-Wad status with three simple
steps and a little determination.
1.
Focus on the
problem.
Resolve to be conscious of the problem for a few weeks.
Three should be
enough for any serious F-wad.
2.
Notice the
words.
Sensitize your brain to know when you are using filler words.
People that use filler words don't even hear them coming out
of their mouths. Simply resolve to hear yourself using the
words. Just putting the thought in your head is usually
enough. You’ll start to hear them all the time.
3.
Pause
instead of saying “um.”
Once you’re aware that you’re using the words, work on closing
your lips whenever you sense that the words are about to come
out.
Before long,
whenever you get to the point in the conversation where you
can’t think of what you’re going to say next, you’ll
consciously keep your mouth shut and remain silent while you
think of what to say next.
At first it
will seem awkward. That silence will be intimidating.
But gradually, you’ll become comfortable with the silence and
realize that allowing a pause in the conversation shows
confidence.
F-Wads of
the world pause. You have nothing to lose but your "uhs."
If you want
to learn how to communicate in a way that shows confidence,
call Speechworks at 404-266-0888. Or check out our website at
www.speechworks.net. |
